Gomommygo Mom's Comments!

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Some thoughts from GoMommyGo:

DON'T CALL ME 'STUPID'!

The great child psychologist, Dr. James Dobson wrote DARE TO DISCIPLINE, in which he shares how a parent must lay down some rules that children must never cross, and one of them was in never using name-calling, like "stupid". Kids NEED to know that YOU'RE in charge, not them. HIS BOOK SAVED MY LIFE! In my experience there are many ways to get your point across without spanking. I seem to remember my mother being very firm with us kids, without even hitting us. First of all, she was bigger, and could sound autoritative as she declared, "I have been around on this earth a long time and know a lot more than YOU do, and I can tell you right now you're never going to get anywhere in life with that type of behavior!" She helped me see that perhaps I was in the wrong! Then she would lecture us about life and how to behave, and let us know what would happen if we did it again.

Surround your children with GOOD people who are examples of how you want them to behave! (see 'GOOD MANNERS') Put your foot down! That goes a long way to helping kids see the light, and setting a new 'tone' for the feeing of a happy home. Kids (and parents, too) feel secure when they know what the rules are. Even your spouse will respect you more if you let them know you don't tolerate bad behavior.

WHAT ABOUT TV?

Evidence in neuroscience and psychology reveals that EARLY EXPOSURE to TV can be harmful to a child's brain and development. It is better to keep your child away from, or strictly limit TV, computer use or video games until after 3 years old, and even some agree that it is better to wait until after 5 or 6 years before exposing them to it. Since our primary relationship with the world comes through relating - to PEOPLE - we learn to be much smarter about the REAL world through REAL LIFE. Anything else is going to lead to problems one way or another. Though all kids love TV and Video games, the harmful effects of too much too early in life are well documented. Candy is fun, too, but it has no real nutritional value and too much can cause them to turn into monsters (have you already noticed?) Look up "harmful effects of TV on young children" on google. If bad examples of how to behave are walking through the door through the TV, then CLOSE THE DOOR! You're in charge! So don't let the TV be the boss of YOU! Shut IT up, too!

Use TV selectively, as an educational tool or a reward for work done with programs YOU have selectively chosen or approve of. If you limit it to no more than a half hour at a time there is more opportunity to emotionally process what was seen, and to be able to allow them to analyze it objectively. When your kids do watch, check what they are watching! Comment on the things you see - if it is teaching untruths use the time as a teaching tool to explain to your children so they will not fall for the subtle manipulation of the movie makers or advertisers. And OBSERVE! Observe the reactions in your kids after they watch TV. Do they emulate the behaviors they have seen? There's proof right there! Tell them when you see them imitate something you don't approve of, and let them know in no uncertain terms that though they saw it on TV, it is NOT good, and you will NOT allow them to watch TV if you notice them behaving badly again. There's no substitute for HANDS-on, REAL world experiences to learn things by.

I started this website with tips to help moms and dads organize the kids and help with behavior issues, because so many other people helped me when I needed it. Certainly am not an expert, but I have a heart for what parents are going through. Don't give up - on yourself or your kid - OR your SPOUSE! THEY were once a little kid too. Persistence is the key to success in anything, and nobody is perfect! No matter how hard we try, we are all 'fix up projects'. So keep it up! It's worth it. Improvement takes time and effort. And FORGIVENESS! We ALL need THAT. As long as you are not being abused, your relationships are worth holding on to. But if you think you are being abused, or want to know more about it, check out these LINKS on Domestic Abuse and Warning signs . Plus how to get help here: NDVH and Helpguide.

Is your child becoming ABUSIVE?

"My kid is acting just like my ex!"
Is one of the family acting like an abusive family member who is no longer in the home? I heard a psychologist say that when one family member leaves the nuclear family unit (through death, divorce or some other reason), that someone else in the family will began imitating that person's role, so that things will feel the 'same'. If you had a previous family member who was abusive, and is now gone from the home, it might explain why suddenly your child might be acting just like the departed family member. But in any case, you must let your child know that these behaviors are unacceptable, regardless of whom they saw doing it.

--- Try this technique: if someone is verbally abusive, walk out of the room and say, "I'm sorry, but I can't talk with you while you're acting like that". If you want to learn more, check out these links on Domestic Abuse and Warning signs . If you or someone you know is being abused, don't wait. Check out these links: NDVH, and Helpguide. There are people who are there to help.

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