In an effort to share some of the WONDERFUL ideas found along the way, I stumbled upon the site, 'EMPOWERING PARENTS'. They really seem to really have a handle on things. And even offer a free newsletter. You can truly benefit from the vast array of knowledge they offer. There's a link to their site below:
Abusive Behavior, Accountability, Acting Out, Acting Out Behavior, Addiction, Adhd/add, Adolescent Behavior, Aggressive Behavior, Alcohol, Anger And Defiance, Anger Management, Angry Child, Annoying Behavior, Antisocial Behavior, Anxiety, Attitude, Backtalk, Bedtime, Behavior Problems, Blaming And Excuses, Blended Families, Boredom, Bullying, Child Behavior, Childhood Phases, Computers/video Games/tv, Consequences, Coping Skills, Curfew, Cursing, Defiance, Defiant Behavior, Defiant Child, Depression, Disabilities, Disrespect, Divorce, Does Your Child Say This?, Drug/alcohol Use, Eating Disorders, Education System, Effective Parenting, Establishing Structure, Ex Spouses, Family Rules/norms, Grandparenting, Gut Check Series, Homework, Learning Disabilities, Lying, Managing Stress, Manipulation, Marital Conflict, Medication, Motivation, Negotiating, Older Children, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Parenting Differences, Personality Changes, Power Struggle, Problem Solving, Raising Grandchildren, Responsibility, School Related Problems, Sibling Rivalry, Single Parenting, Spoiling Children, Stealing And Shoplifting, Stepkids, Stepparenting, Substance Abuse, Swearing, Teens, Temper Tantrums, Toddlers, Tweens, Verbal Abuse, Verbal Abuse And Threats, Victim Thinking, Violent Behavior, Younger Children
HEAR and SEE a sample of one of their Newsletters that HELP! I subscribed!
They even won the iParenting Media Award!
And now a personal message from FROM GOMOMMYGO:
PLEASE DO EVERYTHING TO KEEP YOUR KIDS OFF DRUGS!
(This means so much to me that I even created two little animated messages to help - you'll get to see them after this)
TEENS ARE SO PRECIOUS, and yet they seldom realize it! TELL THEM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THEM --- EVERY DAY! TELL THEM THEY ARE WORTH MORE THAN ALL YOU POSSESS.
Their bodies are changing while hormones are raging, and a teen feels their feelings of SELF-consiousness more intensely than at any other time in life! Because of this they feel the need to be loved more than they ever have - and not just by you - but by their peers. They still need YOUR love, care and understanding and also your LIMITS. I remember WISHING my mom would tell me 'NO' when I asked her if I could go out to a certain party one night. My own intuition was telling me I shouldn't, but I needed HER to be the one to give me the reason to say "no" to my friends, so I wouldn't have to be the 'bad guy' to them. Kids NEED you to say "NO" at times. THey WANT it, even if they don't say it. The world is so harsh and cruel. And children are mean to each other at this most vulnerable time in life. It's no surprise why suicide is the 3rd highest reason for deaths among teens. Don't ever think they don't need your love. They need it even if they don't show it - as a buffer against the pain of rejection and hurts in their relationships with others outside the family. No wonder so many kids get into drugs and alcohol, just to be 'in' with the crowd - especially IF the crowd they are in is using them (and where are they NOT?). You can't pick their friends for them. Water seeks it's own level so hopefully their own innate goodness your example will rub off on them.
When you see a teachable moment, show them these little movies, below and see if they 'get the message' - to stay away from drugs & alcohol, because: 1- drugs & alcohol ruin the mind, and: 2- even if someone thinks drugs & alcohol will make them 'feel good' they lead to harm in the long run. A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP WILL DO MORE TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT LIFE THAN ALL DRUGS IN THE WORLD! I HEARD ONCE THAT A TEENAGER NEEDS MORE SLEEP THAN A NEWBORN BABY! (And SO do their PARENTS!) And yet how many of us ever get enough sleep! No wonder they are depressed so often!
CLICK ON THE IMAGES BELOW TO WATCH two of my SHORT MOVIES in QUICKTIME
WHAT HAPPENED TO MY BRAIN? (Don't Do Drugs)
Quicktime 1.2MB ©Ruth Elliott,2007
with SOUND
Or- click for 112K.swf file here
Drugs and Alcohol give a sense of FALSE FREEDOM that can lead to bad decisions, poor behavior, panic and fear - and can lead to jail or even mental illness. If you have a diagnosis of a mental disorder already, or a genetic predisposition to mental illness, stay away from non prescription drugs and alcohol - and stay INSIDE the SAFETYZONE! © Ruth Elliott 2008 Quicktime 72K NO SOUND
Or - click for a .swf file here 168K
Check out these tips! (for younger kids)*
1: Make a 'ThankDon't Spank' BEHAVIOR CHART
2: Learn what MOTIVATES people
3: Learn how to use CONSEQUENSES
4: PLAN your STRATEGY
OLDER KIDS NEED A CHORE CHART, TOO!(click to go to that page)
Also check out this idea for consequenses and rewards Using the BEHAVIOR WHEEL invented by a creative mom HERE (she explains how she invented it HERE)
Did you know that learning Art helps Math skills improve?
Do you wish schools could get materials that help kids learn Art and reference CA Math standards, too?is a NonProfit Organization doing just that. 100% of donations they receive go to projects that help children through Art that references the CA Math Standards - plus they provide Character building educational materials. I know you care about kids or you wouldn't be visiting this site. If you feel grateful for what GOMOMMYGO has done for you, we ask nothing in return, but if you want to give, we recommend you give to EDU DESIGNS, a CA 501(c)3 Non Profit. Go to their site and click on the Donate Button. You will get the satisfaction of helping kids, PLUS a tax deductible receipt in return!
WE SUPPORT EDU DESIGNS!
*Please be advised: Gomommygo does not provide counseling services and is not intended to take the place of professional therapy, counseling or medical treatment!
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